Understanding your partner

Understanding your partner for a better Relationship. Common relationship hiccups.

Unsolicited advice from women. Why do women like to give unsolicited advice to their partners? Is it in their DNA or is it a trust issue? I like to get your feedback on this subject. For what I have found out from the couples that I have worked with is that their is a trust issue. This could have been from a childhood experience they had with their caregiver.

Today’s topic is unsolicited advice from women. Understanding your partner for a better relationship. Why do women like to give their mate directions? Ladies, turn here is not what men want to here. How women communicate, feel, think, react. When women express their feelings, women assume poetic license and use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations. Men mistakenly take these expressions literally.

Because many men don’t understand that women express feelings differently, they inappropriately judge or invalidate their partner’s feelings. Biggest challenge for men is correctly to interpret and support a woman when she is talking about her feelings. Biggest challenge for women is correctly to interpret and support a man when he isn’t talking. Silence is most easily misinterpreted by women. Women think out loud, sharing their process of inner discovery with an interested listener. Men process information differently: The “mull over” or “think about what they have heard or experienced.  Women need to understand that when he is silent, he is saying “I don’t know what to say yet, but I am thinking about it.” When a man is silent it is easy for a woman to imagine the worst. Both parties need to stop offering the method of caring they would prefer and start to learn the different ways their partners think, feel, and react. Men and women need to stop offering the method of caring they would prefer and start to learn the different ways their partners, think, feel, and react.

  • The Art of Listening
    • The greatest challenge is to not take it personally, to not misunderstand her. We speak different languages.
    • If he is unable to listen in that moment, inform her and then return
    • Learn to communicate in a way that respects our differences and understand each other’s needs.

    In a time of crises, we hug one another. Why? Because physical touch is a powerful communicator of love. Disappointment is a part of life. If your spouse’s primary love language is physical touch, nothing is more important than holding her as she cries. Your words mean nothing, but your physical touch will communicate that you care.

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